The Virtue of Generosity
Generosity is usually associated with the giving of money. In Step 12 it is associated with the giving of ourselves. Generosity is a stable disposition to give to others things that are valuable to us. This includes, but is not limited to, and is not even primarily or in the first place, the giving of material valuables.
We give generously of our time, our attention, our energy, our work and our effort, our knowledge, our experience, our physical and emotional space. We give a compliment, a kind word, a smile, a pat on the back. We give credit, we give recognition, we give validation. We give the benefit of the doubt, and are quick to acknowledge the good in those who falter. We give reassurance.
Even in the giving of the material we give spiritually, from the heart. We give willingly, gladly, and freely, with no expectation of return or repayment. We give freely because we have been given freely. We are generous because God has been generous with us. Our sobriety, our lives, our freedom, and each and every good we have, tangible and intangible, we have by the grace of God.
Our humble recognition of that reality, and our grateful response to it, is the spiritual ground of our generosity. In being generous, we give ourselves in love and service, trying to show to others the grace that has been shown to us.
“While I lay in the hospital the thought came that there were thousands of hopeless alcoholics who might be glad to have what had been so freely given me.” – Bill W.
“Giving, rather than getting, will become the guiding principle.” – Big Book
“Here we experience the kind of giving that asks no rewards.” – 12&12
“The generous makes generous plans, and by generous deeds he stands.”
– Isaiah 32:8
“Freely you have received, freely give.” – Mathew 10:8
“The wise man does not lay up his own treasures. The more he gives to others, the more he has for his own.” – Lao Tzu
“We should give as we would receive, cheerfully, quickly, and without hesitation; for there is no grace in a benefit that sticks to the fingers."
“For it is in giving that we receive.” – Francis of Assisi
“Be generous with kindly words. Especially about those who are absent.”
– Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
“He does not possess wealth that allows it to possess him.” – Benjamin Franklin
“Do all the good you can. By all the means you can. In all the ways you can. In all the places you can. At all the times you can. To all the people you can. As long as ever you can.” — John Wesley
“It is one of the most beautiful compensations of this life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
“You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.” – Khalil Gibran
“That's what I consider true generosity: You give your all, and yet you always feel as if it costs you nothing.” – Simone de Beauvoir
“We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.”
– Winston Churchill
“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”
“The value of a man resides in what he gives and not in what he is capable of receiving.” – Albert Einstein
“Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.” – Simone Weil
“You can give without loving, but you can never love without giving.” – Robert Louis Stevenson
“One of the sanest, surest, and most generous joys of life comes from being happy over the good fortune of others.” – Robert A. Heinlein
“Generosity consists not in the sum given, but in the manner in which it is bestowed.” – Unknown
"When you become detached mentally from yourself and concentrate on helping other people with their difficulties, you will be able to cope with your own more effectively." – Norman Vincent Peale
“Real generosity toward the future lies in giving all to the present.” – Albert Camus
“To give and then not feel that one has given is the very best of all ways of giving.” – Max Beerbohm
“The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches but to reveal to him his own.” – Benjamin Disraeli
“The most important thing in any relationship is not what you get but what you give.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
"Be generous with your praise, cautious with your criticism." – Unknown
"Generosity does not calculate the relative worth of its recipients but comes out of the abundance of the giver." – William C. Spohn
"The source of generosity is not the purse. It is the heart." – Tim Keller
“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” – Leo Buscaglia
“The generous is “free” with valuable things because he is free from them . . . His freedom from the valuables is partially a consequence of a concern for others that can override his concern for the valuables.” – Intellectual Virtues: An Essay in Regulative Epistemology
"We extend our love and share our recovery with complete generosity." – Just for Today: Daily Meditations for Recovering Addicts
“The more I give of myself and the more generously I open my heart and my mind to others, the more growth I will experience.” – One Day at a Time in Al-Anon
“And we grow in love through acts of selfless giving in service to our fellows, manifesting this love in patience, compassion, generosity, kindness, and other virtues that are the fruits of charity, the love of God in us.” – PTP
“With Tradition 8 we practice generosity and integrity as we give back what we have been given, seeking neither remuneration nor reward.” – PTP
– For more PTP passages on generosity, see pp.24-25. For more BB
and 12&12 passages, click on www.164andmore.com and search
“give” in its various forms. For more from One Day at a Time in
Al-Anon, see meditations for 02/22, 06/01, 06/08, 10/14, and 10/30
1. “Generosity,” chapter in Intellectual Virtues: An Essay in Regulative Epistemology,
by Robert C. Roberts and W. Jay Wood. Challenging, but rewarding
2. "Hilarious Giving: The Virtue of Generosity," chapter in How to Be Good in a World
Gone Bad: Living a Life of Christian Virtue, by James S. Spiegel
3. “Babette’s Feast,” 1987 Danish movie with Stéphane Audran and Bodil Kjer.
Exquisite blend of beauty, simplicity, and generosity. Makes one cry and laugh
at the same time.
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