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Appendix 3: Common Manifestations of Self: Defective Emotions – Resentment

This is one in a series of tables featuring the main emotions discussed in PTP Step 4. For accompanying tables of character defects, see Appendix 4 on this site. The tables are intended to help us take inventory using the guides to Inventory Type A and/or B


Resentment

 
 Definition 

Resentment is a form of anger and thus the above definition of anger applies equally to it. The difference between the two is mainly one of duration and expression. Resentment is typically a smoldering, low-burning, lasting, and repressed form of anger. It results from holding on to (nursing, indulging) a perceived past injury, or from an inability to express the anger openly to and punish or hurt the perceived offender, who holds a superior position (age, authority, control, power, etc.). In either case, the anger remains unresolved and can flare up again

 
 Related

 Terms &
 Conditions  

Related to perception of offense:
same perception of offense as anger, but in some cases a different perception of offender: administrator, authority, boss, bureaucrat, control, director, employer, government, institution, judge, landlord, law, lawyer, leader, manager, minister, officer, official, older brother or sister, owner, parent, police, power, regulations, rules, supervisor, teacher, the establishment, the system


Related to feelings and emotions: animosity, animus, antagonism, antipathy, aversion, ax to grind, bad blood, bad feelings, bile, bitter, bitterness, bone to pick, consternation, crossed, cynicism, discomposure, dismay, disquiet, dissatisfaction, disgruntlement, discontent, envy, enmity, friction, grievance, grouchy, grouchiness, grudge, grudging, hard feelings, hardness of heart, hostility, ill-disposed, ill will, indignation, irritation, jealousy, malevolence, malice, maliciousness, miff, mordacity, mordant, pique, rancor, resentfulness, revengeful, slow burn, sore, soreness, spite, spiteful, spitefulness, spleen, stew, sullen, surly, vengeance, vengefulness, vindictiveness, wounded feelings

 
 Underlying

 Character
 Defects


envy, impatience, ingratitude, injustice, jealousy, intemperance, intolerance, pride, unacceptance, unforgiveness
 
 Corrective

 Character
 Virtues


acceptance, compassion, forgiveness, gratitude, humility, justice, kindness, patience, temperance, tolerance

For other emotions, please click on the appropriate link: Anger, Fear

For appendices 1, 2, or for 3 and 4 portals, please click on the appropriate link.